Instead of retiring from service, we began Eldering™ to be of service.
Instead of losing touch with people, we took on consciously creating Eldering relationships with younger leaders of the community.
Instead of leaving the world’s problems to the next generation, we were responsible for our collective future and designed it with them.
Declare a larger purpose for the rest of your life
Many of us approach ‘old age’ with fear. We’re afraid of all the things we expect to lose (like our health, our status and our purpose). We’re uncertain about what lies ahead and we have no idea what we’ll do with all our time. Now is the end of our adulthood, a time when we are primarily valued for what we produce. Life stretches out before us like a blank canvas, and we can fill it with whatever we choose.
It is a time for us to let go of our past and to begin creating our lives as a possibility. It is a chance to generate a new definition of what is possible as we grow older. It is an opportunity for us to begin Eldering, to share the wisdom we have to contribute to younger generations, and to act on our commitment to the continued existence of the whole community. In doing so, we can be valued for who we are.
The Eldering Ceremony marks this rite of passage. It is an opening for thoughtful adults to:
Be recognized for who they are
Declare what they stand for
State publicly what they can be counted on to contribute to younger generations, their community and the world for the remainder of their lives
Assume their role as an Elder
The Ceremony can be held as a separate formal occasion or as part of another gathering (such as a retirement party, family get-together or group meeting). The power of this event lies in having family, friends and community members present to witness the declarations and to acknowledge who the new Elder is for them.
The Eldering Ceremony Guide
Ceremony Guide includes:
Instructions for organizing and
conducting the event,
Cue sheets for the
Suggestions on how to customize the ceremony.
With your purchase of the Guide, you receive a lifetime license to use and modify the ceremony to suit your community's needs.
"Fear is mostly a bad habit that people use to justify why they aren’t doing what they want to do and to explain why they aren’t accomplishing what they want to accomplish. When we take responsibility for our fears, we create an opportunity to freely choose—to have our day-to-day actions express our vision and commitment to a life worth living."
— Jim Selman